With the idea of personal growth in a relationship,
how does that relate back to intimacy exactly?
>> Well, like in an earlier comment that I made, I was talking about you know how
when you are in a safe space that you have created with someone and when there is trust,
it'd be easier for you to be exploring, like you know, the not so savoury aspects of yourself,
then you will be able to look at sort of your own problems, weakness, darkness.
When you are in the safe space,
you feel supported, accepted, embraced by the other person.
It's actually easier for you to do that, and especially when you're getting
positive feedback and support from the other person, you may have more courage,
motivation to go in and explore yourself, right?
So, that is the idea of that depth we talked about,
it lets you achieve a deeper understanding of yourself.
And if you have two participants in a relationship doing that together,
then what we are imagining is like a deeper understanding of oneself, and
also, deeper mutual understanding, right?
And that is our belief that if you have a deeper understanding of your issues,
and you're able to make sense of them,
you'll also be better able to work through them.
Or if those sort of like difficulties or challenges,
you may be better able to overcome, right?
So that is growth, and you become a better person.
You understand yourself better.
You're in better control of your internal processes.
And you can actually be like feeling better to just like be yourself without
worrying about you know, negative, like dark sides of you showing up and ruining things.
So yeah, I think that is actually a very idealized imagination
of how people can grow in an intimate relationship.